Author Archives: winginit20

There are those of us that despite the pains and the immense feeling of just never quite being good enough regardless of our innate desire to continue to give our absolute best at everything, but we won’t let the world best us and we refuse to be victims or accept that we in fact canContinue reading “The ADHD, Empathy, Cognitive Dissonance trifecta”

I don’t waste time with regret. Much like anger, sadness, bitterness…I find them places to visit but I don’t unpack and live there. Ever. I’ve known from a young age that life is very precarious and not promised. Why waste it in emotions and mindsets that aren’t fruitful or joyful? However, growth comes from reflectionContinue reading “Parenting regrets…”

I’ve never felt more Christmasy or less. Simultaneously. I decorated, more and less than I usually do. I’ve overloaded on Christmas music. I’ve not purchased as many gifts. I don’t believe gifts are synonymous with Merry Christmas, so this is not a negative thing. I think there are a few reasons for my remiss ChristmasContinue reading “Christmas’ish”

Does it ever go quite as planned? The answer is, no. As long as I can remember my life, I remember dreams of wandering around Mother Earth and soaking in all that she has to offer. This never left me. Not to mention, I have last way too many loved ones in the past 20Continue reading “Tinsley’s Cross Country RV trip”

A tale of three professionals working on one f’d up little girl. We should take a moment to laugh at the fact that I have had FOUR hour long counseling sessions this week. I mean, hey, nothing says I couldn’t use more. I feel lighter. I do feel hopeful. I find it very funny thatContinue reading “Coach, Counselor, and Neurotherapist”

So, maybe I’ve finally fallen off a mental and emotional ledge and I can’t get back, or my apathy has made me masochistic, but either way I agreed to two co -workers today that I will chronicle my 8 week counseling/life coach journey. Anyone who knows me, knows I am an open book. Alllllll theContinue reading “What can a life coach tell me to do?”

My Nanna always said “if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all”. I failed miserably at this. However, I do believe there is some merit in this adage. “Nice” is subjective. I am a proponent for honesty and I don’t believe being honest means you’re not being nice. Even ifContinue reading “When in doubt…”

36 years ago, my 16 year old mother had me. She came home to my nannas (her mother). From there a small team of my nanna, aunts, and mom raised me. The one that shined the most to me, my Nanna. She wasn’t dealt an easy hand ever. Something I have learned over the yearsContinue reading “The Biggest Loss I’ve Ever Known”

Do most even know where they truly stand anymore? Have titles and sides become more important than humanity, compassion, working together to achieve goals, a sense of community? Every corner you turn there is divisiveness. Coincidentally, every where you look you see people hurting, angry, saying they have so few they can rely on. WhyContinue reading “What’s the cost?”

This will be pretty to the point….I find the fewer words garner the attention that it needs to get Hypocrisy: the practice of claiming to have moral standards or beliefs to which one’s own behavior does not conform. Illusory truth effect: the tendency to believe false information to be correct after repeated exposure. Confirmation bias:Continue reading “My SOTU Address”